Have you ever felt like no matter what you do everything goes wrong? Humm... I thought maybe you would have felt that way at least once. I have to say it is one of the most frustrating feelings for me. But right now it's a little more than a feeling, it's a reality.
So my 23rd birthday is only 7 days away! I'll be celebrating over the weekend with friends and family. And my day it maybe, but it feels like it's not fully for me.
I have found there are 2 types of people in the world, "Givers" and "Takers." I fall into the giver category myself. I am always trying to change to make others happy and more comfortable. And every year I do or at least try to do all of this stuff for my birthday, but somehow I end up disappointed and frustrated.
This is just not a birthday extravaganza problem, this is a day to day issue I deal with. In my line of work, customer service, I am constantly bending to please others. In all of my friendships and in my relationship I am bending to make others happy. I'm just a big people pleaser, and I don't want to be anymore.
I want to give, think, live, and love freely! I feel like I have to do all that I do know. I am seeking to please me. So do I become a taker? How do you turn the green light off and turn the red light on?
Really?
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Love Rehab!
A few friends of mine have gone through the whole love and heartbreak thing more than once. And every time it has left them with an even more bitter taste in their mouths about love. I can say that at least one of them has given up on the whole idea, and forbids themselves to ever again get emotionally attached to another person.
I can't say I blame them for never wanting to experience the heartache again. Going through it once kept me guarded for years. But I then decided to love again and give my all into another relationship. And I've grown to realize love itself is necessary to existance.
What I went through in high school with love was major then but nothing now! Looking back on past relationships, I realize where I went wrong. If we would just take more time loving ourselves for a little while, realizing real love from fake would be easier.
One thing I learned from a good guy friend of mine is that you should be loved the way you want to be loved. Many people including myself settle for less then what they deserve. And when it all goes sour, they decided love has done them wrong.
Correction you have wronged yourself. Before your next dive into love friends, take some time to love yourselves. Once you have loved you, you will realize if and when someone else is actually loving you back! So in between heartache and happiness, go through love rehab with youself.
Until next time friends! Be blessed!
I can't say I blame them for never wanting to experience the heartache again. Going through it once kept me guarded for years. But I then decided to love again and give my all into another relationship. And I've grown to realize love itself is necessary to existance.
What I went through in high school with love was major then but nothing now! Looking back on past relationships, I realize where I went wrong. If we would just take more time loving ourselves for a little while, realizing real love from fake would be easier.
One thing I learned from a good guy friend of mine is that you should be loved the way you want to be loved. Many people including myself settle for less then what they deserve. And when it all goes sour, they decided love has done them wrong.
Correction you have wronged yourself. Before your next dive into love friends, take some time to love yourselves. Once you have loved you, you will realize if and when someone else is actually loving you back! So in between heartache and happiness, go through love rehab with youself.
Until next time friends! Be blessed!
Monday, April 26, 2010
Flame or Flicker?
I wake up everyday with the same routine.
Roll out of the bed at 8am just to take the dog out then back to sleep for another 2 hours. Then my day really begins. Everyone has a routine typically, we got through the same things everyday. With that being said, who's to say our love is not the same?
Have you ever looked at your "Flame" and realized there isn't even a "flicker" in your heart? Well my friend you have turned your mate into an everyday routine.
So how do we spice up things to get the Flame back? That question is for you to answer, because my friends it takes change.
I back up solidarity in relationships fully! But please recognize the problem early because I also completely relate to wanting out of something worth fighting for.
How could I relate to wanting out of something worth fighting for you might ask? Simple... When you've fought to win someone's love for so long you eventually get tired. And many would say you give up, but I say you realize your mistake. While they were still your flame you were merely their flicker. And once the tables turn and it's just too late to turn back the hands of time what do you do?
Many minds seek for a logical answer, some set instructions. Life however is not so clear so you must just do what it best for you!
I leave you with a drink of thought from a good friend of mine!
When life hands you Vodka and a Lime; make a margarita!
Time Heals Wounds!
Roll out of the bed at 8am just to take the dog out then back to sleep for another 2 hours. Then my day really begins. Everyone has a routine typically, we got through the same things everyday. With that being said, who's to say our love is not the same?
Have you ever looked at your "Flame" and realized there isn't even a "flicker" in your heart? Well my friend you have turned your mate into an everyday routine.
So how do we spice up things to get the Flame back? That question is for you to answer, because my friends it takes change.
I back up solidarity in relationships fully! But please recognize the problem early because I also completely relate to wanting out of something worth fighting for.
How could I relate to wanting out of something worth fighting for you might ask? Simple... When you've fought to win someone's love for so long you eventually get tired. And many would say you give up, but I say you realize your mistake. While they were still your flame you were merely their flicker. And once the tables turn and it's just too late to turn back the hands of time what do you do?
Many minds seek for a logical answer, some set instructions. Life however is not so clear so you must just do what it best for you!
I leave you with a drink of thought from a good friend of mine!
When life hands you Vodka and a Lime; make a margarita!
Time Heals Wounds!
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